Today’s 20s and 30s have changed the rules of dating from classical movies and dinner to last-minute plans of hangout with a group of friends. The trend has changed from love letters to SMS. Graphic designer Ankit Wadhwa says that “dating rules for healthy relationships have completely altered. Sometimes, there isn’t even a telephonic invitation; just a last-minute SMS or tweet for an impromptu ‘hook-up’ or chat,“.
Here are some trendy dating rules for you
❒ The social media rule
Online dating sites, as well as social platforms for communication, have made love digital. One tip for a healthy relationship that everyone will give is to keep exploring new people. But is it true?
Advertising account Komal Shah says “You’ve got mutual friends, you see photos of them with your friends, and you think, ‘Hey, this person might be nice, I could consider going on a date with him,”.
Prahlad Kakkar talks about the ‘digital love’ which has reduced the importance of partner as it is easy to access the new ones. “Technology has made life much easier for young people. Boys don’t have to climb a wall to meet their girlfriends. Even if the parents put them on curfew, the kids can rendezvous online from the confines of their own room.”
Malini Agarwal Rizwanullah, a celebrity blogger, comments that online Dating has affected the youth severely as love is no more a feeling. She says “Do girls still wait for the phone to ring after a great date? Of course, they do. But now there’s the added trauma of obsessively checking e-mail, signing in and out of instant messenger (so that ‘green-lit reminder’ will pop up on his screen), sending vague tweets about heartache and updating their Facebook status…“
The best tip for couples is to come out of the digital world and observe your lover in real life.
❒ Be Honest With Your Past
If a relationship begins with a courtship ritual then the best tip for couples is to reveal everything to your partner before they start digging it up. Pooja Bedi says “The way media spies on celebrities, documenting their every action, the internet marks your digital footprints. Through location mapping, micro-blogging sites, and online photo albums, you can stay abreast of where your love interest is and with whom at any point in time. It’s a great way of knowing what you are getting into,“.
❒ Friend’s Approval
In most surveys conducted separately on men and women, it has been revealed that most people need their friend’s approval to get in a relationship. Bedi says “Your close friends are protective about you, and they want the best for you. They have most likely picked up the pieces when an unsuitable mate broke your heart. It makes perfect sense to trust their opinion about a prospective partner. If your partner gets along with everyone, it keeps your social life balanced.“
❒ The Hookup Rule
Today, many youngsters indulge in sex scenarios. Knowing your partner before indulging physically is a good idea but involvement with an unknown partner proses a lot of risks of which the main risk is that of STDs. Relationship counselor Dr. TusharGuha gives tips for a healthy relationship to couples saying “Pre-marital sex is no longer a crime because there is a shift in perception. Marriage is no longer the goal of getting into a relationship. The millennials I have come across are paranoid about commitment because they are no longer sure if marriage is for keeps. They have started questioning their own motives for tying the knot. Hook-ups, serial monogamy (a succession of faithful relationships) and living in are their ways of experimenting and scrutiny.”
From a feminist perspective, American journalist Hanna Rosin thinks that hookups are necessary for the self-confidence of women. “Research about the hook-up culture shows that over the long run, women benefit greatly from living in a world where they can have a sexual adventure without commitment and where they can enter into temporary relationships that don’t get in the way of future success…“
❒ The Technology Rule
One of the best tips for couples is never to introduce in other’s social life. Never change relationship status on social networking sites without consulting your partner. Also, don’t post ugly or drunken pictures on professional sites. This will disrupt their work environment and they will feel less attracted to you.